Divorce Advice For Women

You're probably thinking about divorce or maybe your divorce has already started and you need some advice. Divorce is a stressful and emotional experience and for many, it can become a nightmare. Are you discovering that your divorce is not turning out as planned? Is your husband bad mouthing you to your lawyer and everyone you know? Does your husband want more child custody just so he doesn't have to pay more child support? Does he believe you do not deserve the house, the cars, the dogs, or retirement fund? Divorces can get nasty. They start off well, you're both in agreement, but then the lawyers start putting ideas in your head about property and custody. 

Getting Started With The Basics 

First thing first when it comes to divorce is money. I know it's sad but true. Why make it about money when it should be about getting out of a loveless, manipulative and controlling relationship. It should be about protecting the children and the welfare of everyone involved. However, lawyers, court fees, mediation, evaluations and expert witnesses are going to cost money to help you plead your case. Step one is to prepare financially. If you don't have any money for a lawyer, then you should start cutting expenses and putting money aside until you can afford one. Make room on credit cards and ask friends and family to borrow as much as they can give you help you out. I know, you shouldn't burden others with your financial situation, but it's better to owe your friends and family money for the next few years than it is to endure another day in a bad marriage. 

Daily Diary 

Keep a journal of every fight and argument you have with your husband so you can recall dates and information really easy. The worst thing you can do is say something negative about your husband without anything to back it up. Write down how it started, what was said and how it ended. Do not leave out details and make sure to record the date and time the conversion started. Also note down anything your husband says he is going to fight for and keep good notes on anything he says he is willing to give you without a fight. Sometimes husbands change their minds about what they want to fight for once they get a lawyer. Keep notes on everything 

Property Records and Finances 

Make sure your name is on everything you want to fight for, including houses, cars, bank accounts with money and retirement funds. If your name is not on any of these pieces of property, you could end up not getting your fair share of them. Start investigating your husband's income, bank statements, receipts and anything else you can discover he has of value. Remember anything he has purchased while married, even if your name is not on it, you could be entitled to. Start saving money in a separate bank account or in cash. Most of all make sure you have enough to hire a lawyer as soon as you're ready to file divorce or as soon as he hires his own lawyer. You want to be the first to act in a divorce. 

Lawyers, Divorce Guides, Divorce Coaches and Child Custody 

Remember, unless you both agree to divorce and who gets what property, that divorce is a battle and you must be prepared legally and mentally. Hire a good lawyer that will fight for you and one that is affordable for you. Do not price shop a lawyer, because you get what you pay for. Interview your lawyers to find a good match. Once you have found a lawyer get yourself some good books and guides on divorce. These guides will give you inside strategies your lawyers are not willing to dish out unless you have lots of money to fight with. If you can afford it, find a divorce coach to tell you what to do each step of your divorce processes. Last but absolutely not least, get your hands a hold of some guides on how to win child custody. Lawyers do not give out much advice on how to win custody, but they will surely spend the money putting up the fight. Educate yourself on what matters when it comes to child custody and evaluations. 

Be prepared financially, legally and educationally. Take charge of the divorce process and always stay on offense. The first one to act will get the upper hand. Do not wait for him to get a lawyer first. 

First thing first is to get a free consultation with an attorney familiar with divorce and child custody in your jurisdiction. 

Get a free no cost obligation of your legal rights to divorce and custody. The free consultation will let you know yours and his legal rights to divorce and child custody. They will also let you know how to protect yourself and how much its going to cost. Just remember the first one to act will get the upper hand. Do not wait for him to get a lawyer first. 

Child custody is a completely separate issue and battle from divorce and usually 90% of the expenses and heart ache. Use these strategies to get the upper hand from day one. 

Do not wait until things start to go wrong to get this information that you should be doing even before you start the divorce process.

I wish you all the best of luck!

Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Janice_D._Rubin/430883 

Find Your Passion and Start Living It!

Retirement can be an exciting time in your life, but it can also be daunting. You may feel like you've lost your sense of purpose or structure now that you're no longer working. The transition from a full-time career to retirement can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be. If you're about to retire or have recently retired, there's a book you need to read called "So What Do We Do Now?: The Babyboomers Guide to Enjoying Retirement" by Eva Bennett.

Bennett draws on her own experiences of adapting to her husband's retirement, which involved moving to a seaside town. She ranks the impact of this life-changing experience right up there with childbirth. While we had the benefit of antenatal classes and new mothers' groups, there's very little available for impending retirees or the newly retired.

Retirement isn't always what people expect. Recent retirees said they were happier when they were working because they felt they had a purpose and structure to their days. Retirement doesn't mean retiring from life. There's an increasing trend for people not to retire outright, but to start working less. Research has shown that retirees who cease to contribute and to be productive and active, die earlier than those who continue to engage fully in society.

According to Bennett, the beginning stages of retirement are like a honeymoon period. You don't have to get up to go to work, you can play golf or go fishing whenever you like, and don't have to work to deadlines. But the euphoria and the novelty soon wear off. After all, there are only so many lattes you can drink and only so many times you can go fishing. Then what? Life can get boring. We need to re-evaluate who we are and what we want out of life because our former identity is no longer relevant.

There are three stages to the transition from old to new:

1. Endings (where we let go of the past),
2. The Neutral Zone (where we review the past and reflect on what we want to do now) 
3. New Beginnings (where we decide what we need to change or do differently)

As you create the new you, it's important to keep all aspects of your life in balance, including your finances, home life, health, relationships, leisure time, and your purpose in life.

One of the secrets of a healthy, active, and happy life is to feel young psychologically. It's never too late to find your passion and start living it. The so-called Third Age is the time to give back to the community and share your knowledge and wisdom. Being positive is an important part of enjoying your retirement and contributes to living longer. Some people enter retirement filled with negative thoughts and fears of ill health and lack of money. The key to happiness is to be happy with whatever you have.

In conclusion, retirement can be a challenging transition, but it's also an opportunity to create a new and fulfilling life. By reading "So What Do We Do Now?: The Babyboomers Guide to Enjoying Retirement" and following the three stages of the transition from old to new, you can find your purpose and balance in life. Remember to keep a positive mindset, stay active and engaged in society, and enjoy all that retirement has to offer.

The key is to find activities that align with your interests and passions, and to stay open to trying new things.

Household Spending Plans

Much of the time it is up to the woman of a household to take care of the spending plan (AKA Budget) and immediate finances. The task of determining the monthly cost allocation for activities as well as cooking, cleaning, and food shopping. In other instances a women with children has to take care of these duties while also working part of full time. 

For a household that is not financially planned, this situation can create chaos if not managed. When kids are involved in the mix, the need for a spending plan is much more greater as resources tend to become depleted quite easily. By setting easy and comfortable money targets for your family, which can save you both time and money. This will enable the family household to run easier and smoother, therefore planning ahead of time is essential. For example grocery shopping in bulk will not only save you time and money, but it will also save you in terms of preparation. You will be able to make meals in large batches, then freeze them for whenever you need a quick meal. This allows you a piece of mind that you can always have something ready for last minute occasions. 

Another large impact of a family's costs is the entertainment expense. When you have kids they have a need to be stimulated all the time. Instead of spending money on going to the movies, buying them unnecessary toys, and expensive fun parks, enroll them in sports teams or some type of lesson that they are interested in. Go to the library and borrow books on core life skills. Yes, this will cost some money but in the long run it is much less than the other types of entertainment. Your kids will learn a new skill that will enable them to keep preoccupied & content even they are not at their actual lesson or team practice. They will be able to practice on their own and get better at something not involving a video game or TV. 

Setting a spending plan for your family needs to be customised to the amount of money that is going in and out of your household every month. If you are trying to save up for something then something else must be given up. This really allows you to weigh what is important to you, short-term satisfaction or long-term goals. 

If we know some of these tips, this will set up a household to be the most efficient as possible. When a household is efficient, it opens up the much-needed time for family and friends to enjoy each other's company. Creating successful habits can allow your family to become closer knit because you will value the time you can spend with each other.

What can we learn from wealthy people?

The truth is, everyone craves to be wealthy. We secretly wish we could be like the wealthy. We look at them with a combination of admiration, envy and wonder. What exactly did they do to be so blessed? 

Yes, the super-wealthy rule the world. They live in the biggest mansions and own the choicest properties. They ride the most luxurious cars and marry the most beautiful women. When they speak, their words are carried by news media around the globe. 

The super-wealthy are abound in commerce, politics, entertainment, sports, IT, finance, oil and gas, to mention a few. In short, they abound in every sphere of human endeavour. 

The following names, not in any particular order, readily come to mind when we talk about the super-wealthy: Bernard Arnault, Bill Gates, Jack Ma, Elon Musk, Jay Z, Beyonce, Warren Buffett, Oprah Winfrey and Jeff Bezos. 

Among the super-wealthy you can count Buddhists, Christians, Hindus, Muslims, non-believers, Blacks, Whites, Browns, mixed races, men, women, and people from all continents. 

What exactly then separates the super-wealthy from the poor? If not some undue advantage in opportunities, skin color, religion, intellect, industry, talent, place and time of birth, what?

Here they are: 

Focus their Attention

The wealthy pay undivided attention to nurturing and multiplying their wealth. For instance, Bill Gates attributes his wealth not so much to what he makes as Microsoft's co-founder, but to the excellent work of his portfolio manager, Michael Larson. On the other hand non wealthy spend their money on trying to look rich. In short, the poor tries to copy the "Millionaire Next Door." To be wealthy, be wealth conscious and focus attention to not just making money but how to grow it and make your money work harder for you. 

Productive with their Time 

Time is the most precious and scarcest resource. As economists say, its supply is inelastic. You can't store or delay it, you can't stop it, and you can't increase it. Effective use of time requires a mindset that is productive. The super-wealthy use time well. While time is an abstract, how you use it is a mindset. Regardless of wealth, we all have the same amount of this most invaluable resource? From birth until death we have equal amount of time daily: 24 hours. You will be wealthy to the extent to which you judiciously use this limited resource. 

Focus On One Thing

To be wealthy, develop FOCUS. Focus on one thing at a time. While the wealthy focus on one thing at a time. Whenever the wealthy pursues an end, he burns his boat and never looks back. Take for an example, Jeff Bezos. He focused on ECommerce, Bill Gate on computer coding, and Jay Z on entertainment.

Think Big 

If you look closely, all the wealthy think big. Jeff Bezos is not just building an E-Commerce company, but the most customer centric company on the planet. Bill Gates did not just go out to build Microsoft, but the biggest software company in the world. Not to be outdone, Mark Zuckerberg's empire now includes Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp and Messenger. Thinking big is about being methodical, seeing the bigger picture of "what could be." It's about having an uncanny vision of the future and setting your sail accordingly in the direction of that vision without being distracted by other "opportunities" along the way. It's about saying "No" to a thousand things so that you can say "Yes" to the "one thing" that matters to you. So thinking BIG is one of the hallmarks of the wealthy. Really, why think small if you can think BIG by focusing on one grandiose end at a time? 

Proximity 

Don King, the boxing promoter, once told Dennis P. Kimbro, the co-author of Think and Grow Rich: A Black Choice, his plan for becoming a billionaire was "by hanging around billionaires, learning all they know." So hatch a plan and find a way to rub shoulders with the wealthy. By so doing, you'll be sucked into the world of the wealthy. This will reprogram your mind. Hanging around the wealthy is not just about networking, but it's about getting close enough to be mentored by the wealthy. What can you do to enter the radar of the wealthy? Write a book, start a podcast or a YouTube Channel to mention three. You can't be wealthy unless you reprogram your mind to think like the wealthy. The easiest way to do that is to enter into the world of the wealthy through the back door - through what you do. 

Work Hard and Smart 

Most of the time, the things associated with the wealthy are Gulf Stream Jets, Super Yachts, Golf Courses, Ocean Blue Islands, Hot Air Balloons and mansions designed in heaven. These are what you see at the front end. But peel the curtain a little and what you'll see at the back end is hard work. Many believe hard work does not matter in today's digital world where you can "set everything up to work on autopilot." Beware; nothing could be further from the truth. Do you know that Jeff Bezos used to kneel to sort parcels when Amazon first started in 1995? Till date he exhorts his people "It's Always Day One", meaning maintaining the spirit of entrepreneurship of a start up. If you're not willing to work hard, then perish the thought of getting wealthy. In his Good to Great, author Jim Collins wrote about the concept of the "flywheel." That's what hard work is all about. No wealth is ever created by standing with hands akimbo. 

Keeps Learning and Growing

Learning in this context is not about amassing many PhDs and MBAs in assorted disciplines. Learning is not about endless webinars. It's about getting personal coaches to make you better and performing at your peak in all dimensions of life. It may interest you to know some super-wealthy started out with no to little money but through a dint of hard work, learnt to overcome the bad hand that fate dealt them at birth. One well documented example is John H. Johnson of Ebony Magazine fame who in his day rose to become the 400th richest American. 

In his book, Succeeding Against the Odds, he stated that his family was not only poor, but they were the "poorest of the poor." John H. Johnson learnt to speak despite being born with a stammer; he learnt to believe in himself despite being born into extreme poverty, he learnt to sell and ended up buying the insurance company that employed him. 

So don't blame your start in life, just keep learning and wealth will be within your grasp. 

Source: Paul Uduck

Generational Financial Responsibility

As with most skills, talents, and overall 'education' gained throughout a lifetime of experiences, remember - practice makes perfect, and consistency is key. We suggest that when imparting knowledge of finances; from children saving change in a piggy bank, to teenagers saving a percentage of an allowance or gifts in cash, working with them in a mentor role, as they start their very own bank accounts is critical to generational success. 

Practice Makes Perfect 

Every day, month, quarter and year, there are activities and habits needed to be accomplished consistently. This helps ground children in the basics of financial literacy, which are appropriate to their family wealth factors and long-term responsibilities such as philanthropy. 

Children who will inherit significant wealth and the responsibilities that go along with it, require world-class preparation. Balancing income and outgoings and understanding compound interest is one thing, but managing assets, establishing a growth-mindset, and teaching a child to have vision, is another. Parents may have built up a very successful business, but your children may someday need to sit on the board and also approve the management of investments that support an extended family.

One way to engage children is to play off of their passions; otherwise, financial education will feel like classroom instruction. There are "family wealth advisors" who work with families to identify the things their children already have an interest in, and are willing to spend time pursuing such as a favorite sport or activity. From this identification, these counselors develop a learning program around the child's interest or passions as a theme. 

The end goal is to help each family member of the next generation to have an individual 'economic vision statement,' and to have developed the skills required to realise their unique vision and support in turning the vision into a reality.

While many families want their children to understand the basic concepts and terms, their children need to go beyond the introductory level of money management to incorporate family values, such as those related to charitable giving or volunteering, as well as their particular interests in participating. Their 'economic vision statements' themselves will evolve as these children mature and become more focused in their individual interest and goals. 

Consistency is Key 

Every family takes for granted that if a child is going to be a proficient at tennis, golf or the piano, they need regular lessons, a great teacher, and practice. It's that same thing for financial education. And so, those kids who get practice, great instruction, and lessons do better." By incorporating the "passions" and interests of your children - regardless of age. 

Those parents who hope a financial education specialist can take their kids and tutor them may have good intentions, but they're not taking necessary actions to address the challenge. Parents and children must be involved. To do it otherwise is just a waste of time and money, not every family has the appetite to take on this work. It's costly. It takes a fair investment of time. And it certainly requires all family members to begin to look at their actions in a different way. In general, there's certainly interest in financial education, but I think a lot of it is just trivial unless there's an ongoing commitment to the process. The commitment needs to be at least as powerful as the commitment to building the next pro golfer.

Planning for Financial literacy 

Learning starts early - just as models of non-productive behavior do. While parents may have good intentions for raising money-mature children, they often fail to succeed because they don't move from 'soft' intentions to a realised program of financial education tailored to the age and interests of the next generation. 

The kids who do well have parents who've gone from good intentions to being intentional. Every parent has the good intention for their children to grow up financially intelligent, but few of them really act on it. Parents who have a growth mindset, are committed to their intentions can help ensure the orderly transition of financial planning from parent to child.

Hot Tips: 

• The prime age is between 6 and 14 for learning and building good, solid money skills 
• Preparation for building and managing wealth is an on-going activity, if you want to create and sustain long term generational financial responsibility
• Consistency, planning and practice truly does make the real difference

Money Disparity between Husband and Wife

When both partners work, share household duties and merge their salaries, you would think that these changes are for the better, for women. Unfortunately, not all of the changes are good as a large majority of women have received plenty of less desirable results. 

According to the Pew Research Center. Only 3.8% of women earned more than their partners back in 1960, but a 2020 TD Ameritrade survey found the number of female breadwinners had jumped to 21%. More than a quarter of women reported that they made as much as their male partners.

Studies also showed that when a women out-earns her husband, he is more likely to cheat. In fact, about 15% of the men in a study by the American Sociological Review.

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The sad fact is that when we earn more than our husbands, we experience more stress on the home front and all have claimed that making more money is hurting the marriage. 75% of us have said that we wished we weren't the breadwinner. The survey asked divorced women and 66% responded that making more money led to the divorce.  

Note, that Gender roles are changing in other ways as men are increasingly willing to pitch in around the home and many do dishes and cook the meals. However, when men are unwilling to participate in household and childcare duties even though they're earning less money than their wives, many marriages fail. 

In order to succeed in this situation, a couple needs to have a partnership in their marriage. Both spouses should have similar values regarding work and money management, and share household responsibilities equally. We need to converse prior to marriage with the expectation that the husband may not be the main breadwinner. 

In order to alleviate as much stress and tension as possible, couples should address their expectations for earning power. Historically, men associate their self-worth with how much money they earn, more than women do. If the wife is earning more, we deserve to have more say in how the money is managed. Many women need to negotiate this issue as it can be a taboo subject is some relationships. You need to align on how will the funds be handled differently? Will your household responsibilities change? If the wife is earning more money because she is spending more time at work, a couple seriously needs to discuss household and childcare responsibilities. In the end, what makes the most sense? It's not about women making all the decisions, but that couples are sharing the decision-making, now. 

A couple must agree that money doesn't equal power and their relationship is worth much more than either before they can adjust to the new model of marriage. By creating unambiguous marital roles and fully addressing all aspects of the family finances, especially how it is handled, you can survive the changing financial and employment landscape of today. In the end, it's about attitude, as opposed to the actual dollar amounts that cause the most conflict. If either spouse feels resentful or critical, it will eventually come to the forefront of any argument and ultimately destroy your marriage. 

How To Be A Great Partner With Your Finances

How To Be A Great Partner

Just being romantic has to mean a variety of things to each and every person, but as you and I both know, romance involves doing that little extra to express affection in a meaningful and sometimes unexpected way. Unfortunately, a lot cannot be done the way you want because of money and finances. We know that the true act of romance requires creativity and above all sincerity, which is often inspired by love. 

One of the better ways is to treat your partner like you are single... , remember when you were trying to earn their affection and trust. And we all know that the opposite of being romanced can and will backfire when it presented as some kind love sick game and gets taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they have already been trapped... because quicker than you can blink... it's over and done with.

In a marriage relationship, communication is the best policy. Having your finances in order can be a great help with that. It can at times be difficult, but the simple truth allows relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which in itself means that the other person will invariably end up giving you the same respect. When communicating with your partner, believe me, they will be the first to let you know if something does not suit them and if it does not feel right or good... they will not trust you or your opinion in love, marriage, romance or money. 

While you are dreaming up ways to win their affections... make sure not to talk their ear off,... but do make sure that if you have any problems that could possibly affect their mood, they are made aware of the reasons for those concerns. Make them the center of everything around you when you're talking to them. If you ask your partner a question, ask because you really want to know the answer. And above all, please... pay attention to that answer. You would be surprised how far that little gesture will carry you up the mountain of love, affection and understanding. 

In discussing opinions, try to see their side and understand the reason why they feel or thinks the way they do. Make sure you are really actually listening, not just waiting for your for turn to insert some interesting little quip that makes you look good. Great partners honour their commitments, accept their duties, portray their loyalties and are accountable for any and all damages, debts and other problematic happenings they make along the way in the relationship. 

Be the bigger person and clean up after yourself and your finances (figuratively and literally). In sharing responsibility, both men and women know that anyone can father a child or give birth... but only a person who understands and accepts that responsibility can be a good parent. How to be a great partner means that you refuse to make anyone do anything that you yourself are unwilling to do. 

4 Things That Women Should Accomplish Before Saying "I Do" or "Settling Down"

Statistically 50% of marriages ends in divorce and in certain parts of the world, we legally can't get divorced so the real numbers are actually higher.

The Myths - 

In today's world, women are more independent than ever; however, many of us are still haunted by the myths of "happily-ever- after" and "love can conquer all", which plays a major part in the high divorce rates. 

But Let's face it ladies.......... many of us still long for the fairytale ending of some handsome Prince sweeping us off our feet, taking us away from all our problems. This only works in the movies. In real life, after the honeymoon stage, everyday life starts to pay a visit-and often. 

The Culprit - 

The truth of the matter is these are some of the real culprits that threaten our happy ending: 

• Finances 
• Sex 
• Communication 
• Family 
• Religion 
• Resentment 

Many relationships are doomed to fail before they even begin because they are started under such false pretenses. There are no guarantees, but if you're thinking of getting married or co-habiting longer term, at some point in your life and want to increase the odds of happiness, take that L.E.A.P. These four simple must do's (as I like to call it), prepares you for whatever's to, come by starting with the one in the mirror, you! 

L-is for Lifestyle 

First take inventory of the life you currently live and the kind you see yourself living in the future. You may lead a quiet, laidback, walks-along-the-beach type of life or you may like the excitement of concerts, parties etc. You may be quite the traveler; can't stay put for long periods of time. Are you a vegan, religious, or a neat freak? Do you live lavishly, accepting only the finer things that life has to offer? You get the idea. Compatibility is a major aspect of a relationship. Learn your lifestyle. 

E- is for Earning 

Get your finances in order. Money's not everything, but let's be real honest-when things go wrong in a relationship, there's nothing happy about being broke and alone with no plans. Set your income goals and go for it -full speed. Make sure you have a high interest savings account in your own name and never give this up. You may have stocks, property and other investments- ave you protected your assets is something happens and your situation changes. Are you in debt? Take a look at your credit reports. See where you stand on paper and take the proper steps to improve your score. Don't wait until you get into a relationship to do these things, because love has a way of distracting us, especially women. Go in solid or close to it. 

A-is for Alone 

This one may seem obvious, but few of us truly get this. Spend some alone time with, that's right, you. Fall in love with you first before loving someone else. Ask yourself, "Who am I"? Figure out what truly makes you happy. Do you have trust, commitment, or jealousy issues? Are you religious or are you spiritual? If you don't deal with these issues now, they will surface once you're in a long term relationship (married or otherwise), I promise. 

P-is for Passion 

Last, but probably the most important of the four. Follow your dreams. Never and I mean never give up on your dreams. Take every single step towards that dream. Focus on you before you focus on someone else. If you do it the other way around, 9 times out of ten, you'll end up putting your life on hold. Find that career and do what it takes to achieve it and thrive. 

So enclosing my friends, remember-although nothings guaranteed and no rule is set in stone, one thing's for sure-no one can give you happiness, you must supply yourself with a plethora of it...then there will be plenty to go around. 

Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Rhonda_Phillips/383764  

The Emotional Triggers of Credit Card Debt

I used to always say that shopping was cheaper than a psychiatrist!

Here is a mind blowing statistic: In 2021, Women accounted for 75% of consumer purchases. And in a country such as the US, where spending is a driving force of the economy and the average consumer credit card debt is $6,275, there is an enormous amount of buying power in the hands of women. 

There are several reasons why women purchase more than men; for instance, we are often in charge of the household expenses and day to day shopping or we spend more because of societal pressures regarding appearance and lifestyle. Another reason is the need to manage our emotions through the act of shopping. 

Men, on the other hand, have a more straightforward approach to purchasing goods; they spend money on things they deem are needed or necessary and are much more focused on saving for the future. They are not as vulnerable to credit card debt as women because they see themselves as the providers of money. 

However, when men do buy, it is usually for larger scale purchases such as electronics, houses, or cars. These are more lasting purchases and houses and cars are generally considered assets. On the other hand, women tend to spend the most money on clothing, shoes, and accessories. 

The rate of bankruptcies, because of credit card debt, for women between the ages of 25 and 44 is the highest for any group. Women are more likely to purchase an expensive handbag, shoes, or electronics than to save their money.  

Young women also have more exposure to celebrities and their lifestyles than every before, they try to emulate their lifestyles through their purchases—often leading to more credit card debt.

Another reason women are more likely find themselves in credit card debt, is our emotional connection with money. For women, money often symbolises security or the ability to attain a better lifestyle. It is often difficult for women to separate our emotions from the detached business of money which creates many problems over time. We tend to express our love, goals, and individualism through money, while to the majority of men, money is just money. 

Women assign money with a value that it doesn’t have, the ability to improve our self-esteem or our happiness. These are values that have been adopted in childhood because our parents are more likely to encourage boys to be more entrepreneurial while girls are often subconsciously taught that we should be taken care of financially. 

These influences are the blueprint for a life of financial success or financial disaster. As women, we do not learn how to properly save and invest, therefore, we find ourselves in credit card debt as we don't really know what else to do with our money. 

This is where femvestorsglobal comes in as we can support you exactly where you need it.

Addressing the emotional connections that you have with money and your old stories as to why, is an important step in the process of achieving financial responsibility and a debt free life. 

Women and Retirement - What We Need to Know Before We Retire

Women in many parts of the world have made tremendous strides in improving our overall financial outlook and closing the income gap with men. During the last two decades, we have become better educated and more self reliant regarding our financial future than our mother's would ever dream. For example. Today, more women are graduating from University than men.

Although women's incomes and economic power have increased steadily over the years, we face many unique challenges when it comes to planning for our financial future. We must be cognisant of the set of circumstances which set us apart from others as we attempt to capitalise on our economic potential and secure our financial future. 

Increased Lifespan 

One distinctive and sometimes overlooked characteristic of women is the differences in life expectancy between men and women. Typically, women can expect to live an average of seven years longer than men. This increased longevity for women creates several challenges that we must consider before we can build a sound financial plan for ourselves. In many cases, because we are expected to outlive our husbands, we must plan for more available income during our retirement years to maintain our lifestyle and independence.

In fact, due to advances in health sciences, we are living longer than ever before. Consequently, many retirees are spending as much as twenty years or more enjoying their senior days. When asked, the majority of retirees felt their number #1 concern regarding retirement, was the prospect of outliving their retirement savings. and future female retirees, the increased chances of a long retirement should be an important consideration in addressing our retirement plan priorities.

Although more women have joined workforce over the years, we often still maintain the more traditional maternal roles within the household, such as raising kids and being the chief caregiver to the entire family. We remain the most likely family members to sacrifice career aspirations to provide care to elderly parents, children or disabled spouses. 

For many women, living longer will also mean we potentially outlive our own primary caregivers-our spouses. It will also increase our risk of needing the services of a nursing home facility due to sickness, injury. It is estimated that the majority of women, over 50%, (as opposed to 33% of men) reaching the age of 65 will need nursing home care before they die. Although healthcare programs are designed to protect us in later years from big medical expenses, it pays for nursing home care only in certain limited and very specific circumstances. With the average nursing home care facility running as much as $120,000 per year, the cost of these services can have a tremendous impact on personal savings, lifestyles and in some cases restrict financial independence. 

Divorce Statistics 

Divorce rates today also have a significant impact on our ability to create long term personal wealth. With divorce rates as high as 50%, the results for many of us are a loss of income and often a dramatic change in lifestyle. As if the psychological impact of family separation were not enough, many divorced women are unaccustomed to handling our own finances and many of us do not have the confidence to take on the role of financial planning for our senior years. 

Often after years of unemployment, many divorced women must re-enter the workforce in order to supplement or maintain existing standards of living while continuing to provide primary child care responsibilities. As a result, women in this circumstance are likely to find ourselves with access to fewer resources, limited years available to generate retirement assets, and insufficient experience in dealing with issues of finance and risk planning. 

Managing Risk

Another consideration for many women is how they handle the inherent risks we all face. In particular, the risk of premature death or disability. This is especially true when it affects the primary income earner in the home. For homemakers, dependent on a spouse's single income, the risk of financial setback is even greater. Although women in our situation are at greater risk, very often there is not adequate insurance protection to ensure enough income replacement beyond the prime child rearing years. Often couples are more focused on paying for college expenses rather than their retirement or their risks of income loss. Moreover, many couples in this situation don't consider the number of years of female life expectancy in this equation when considering insurance protection. 

The consequence of inadequate insurance protection means that many of us are left to support our children without enough income to maintain existing lifestyle. Many of us are forced to sell our home and uproot our children from our neighborhood, schools and friends. Typically, we must now return to the workforce after being unemployed for many years. 

Understandably this creates a shift in focus on immediate income needs and issues of retirement often become less of a priority. In the majority of cases, providing enough income replacement protection is a result of poor advice or other priorities. However many husbands are reluctant to provide adequate coverage due to negative perceptions and stereotypical ideas. In some cultures, it is not unusual for husbands to reject the notion of insurance all together due to a feeling that they will be leaving their spouse's wealthy and also may be providing opportunities for future husbands. 

Additionally, there is evidence that some women are reluctant to insist that our spouses provide us the protection we need despite the recognised risks. Ladies- in this situation we must understand how important insurance is in creating wealth and mitigating risk for our families and particularly for ourselves. A suitably positioned insurance plan can often create an "instant estate" and prevent unnecessary upheaval and the sacrifice of our retirement goals. 

Retirement and Savings

Although the number of women who are working is increasing, we are less likely to work for companies that offer retirement plans. Where we are offered employer sponsored retirement accounts, we tend to be more conservative investors and often do not fully understand how to maximise our investments plan options. Women without access to employer sponsored retirement plans, place ourselves at greater risk of dependence on government supported programs to provide resources during retirement. 

Over the years, retirement programs have provided us supplemental income for millions of retirees. However, according to many estimates, the long term financial viability of these government led retirement programs is now in doubt. This will have a tremendous impact on millions of Generation X retirees and women retirees who fit this age demographic. 

Another important issue for women is the personal savings rates. Personal savings rates have been declining for years. This means we are actually spending more money than we earned. Part of the reason for a smaller savings rate is that the banks are private institutions and are ultimately businesses operating for their shareholders. Governments and Central Banks have a limited ability to hold banks and financial institutions to account, especially since investments such as stocks, bonds, and real estate have been performing well, there has been no need. 

In addition, the availability of low interests, also discourage savings and encourage borrowing for big ticket items such as cars and personal real estate. Economies run on consumption and we are encouraged by government and media to spend at record levels to continue fueling our economy. 

To Conclude 

Building a sound financial future has never been an easy task for the vast majority of women. The task is now more difficult than ever with the current state of the economy. The current economic slowdown only serves to exacerbate an already complex and formidable undertaking. The current economic recession has given us wide spread job losses, the meltdown of retirement accounts, rising inflation, budget deficits, and the potential for higher taxes. This has and will continue, for the foreseeable future, to have a devastating impact on millions of us and our families. 

Despite all the advances we have made, women must also carry the additional burden of longer life spans, high divorce rates, and lower saving rates. This places even greater pressure on us, faced with building a retirement nest egg, to ensure that they will not outlive our savings and decreases the odds of achieving financial security. 

The good news for many of us is that there are many financial strategies available to help us address these unique challenges and put us in a position to create and preserve our wealth. 

As we become better educated and financially savvy, we are realising that we do not have to go it alone. 

This is why we created Femvestorsglobal, so we can support you on becoming financially fabulous and a confident money master.

Women and Money: The Reality Today

• 55% of  women over 65 will find themselves in poverty when they retire
• 40% of unmarried women have saved less than $1,000
• 37% of women spend retirement alone 

Startling statistics ladies. 

Most women will look at these statistics and think, that's not going to be me! 

Then go right ahead and plan the next girlfriends lunch or dinner date without looking at the bank account or the credit card balance. There is very little thought of how to ensure you do not find yourself included in the above statistics. So random incessant spending will continue without thought of the consequences, down the road, looking through the long lens. These statistical groupings are placing women in poverty every day, and few know what to do about it. 

What can be done? 

Any number of actions can change these statistics and the quality of life for all women. Ask any woman and I'll bet none of them would choose any of these girlfriend groups! Talking to girlfriends is one of the first (best) things that can be done to change the destiny of their girlfriends and which statistical group they may find themselves in. Girlfriends are a powerful group. Women will share with girlfriends they have now and the ones they have not yet been fortunate enough to meet yet. 

Women are smart and sassy. They also bond together when one of their sisters is in trouble. By opening this dialogue you may find that those closest to you, may not know the facts you now know. They may not know what to do about it either. Women share information freely and impress upon their friends what no man can. Women are naturally caregivers. This sharing with each other is at the heart of women care giving.

Planning will cause you to place yourself in situations where you won't be a statistic, part of a scary stat. How, you ask? Join our community at Femvestorsglobal for free daily information, alternatively you can join our book clubs (we offer 4 different geographical time zones- so there are no excuses ladies!). We also run virtual events or private 1:1 courses. You learn more, not just about finances. 

The very person you need for the best possible information will be sent to you. As long as learning takes place and actions are taken to change the numbers, both in the financial arena and then the stats, women don't have to find themselves in poverty. 

Invest in the knowledge and wisdom of wealth. We have heard that knowledge is power. For women, learning new vocabulary, words like monetising will bring you power and wealth. Learn now how to eliminate debt forever. Your today purchase can change the purchasing power you have in the future. Wouldn't it be awesome to know how? What do you have to do to acquire enough wealth for your future? Figure out how to share your prosperity and set some aside for those you love. It will come back to you multiplied more than you know. 

Girlfriend road trips are the best!! Memories forever! This is one road trip all the girlfriends cannot miss. This incredible ride could save them more than just the cost of gas. Investing in yourself will prove to bring increase to every aspect of your life. Finding wisdom about money can keep all women from becoming a scary statistic. Within the wealth side of these statistics lies comfort, ease, pampering and peace, which is why we do not record our group events so you have a safe space to talk. 

You will be so glad you did, sooner rather than later. 

Article Source for statistics: wiserwomen.org. 2016 retirement confidence survey, EPI.org 

Financial Success for Women

Truth Bomb Ladies- what we earn is mostly what we spend! 

Many of us spend our money without a budget and then complain when our finances begin to dwindle. The habits that we have created within ourselves with regards to how we spend our money can break or make us. The issue we have created is that we have the problem of spending within our means. Many find ourselves in a tight corner just because we couldn't say no to that flashy car or the expensive handbag we know we should not even be looking at, never mind talk of buying. 

Just like many bury ourselves deep into debt just to satisfy that yearn that has nothing to add to our personal finance or to our life for that matter. Many calculate what they spend at the end of each month and wonder where our money had gone and even what we had done with that thing we should not have bought but bought anyway and is not lying unused in a box in our room. 

Casual spending is not a friend to anyone and it can easily put you into trouble. It is something that can land you in bankruptcy left with nothing but the useless purchase of a life time that has no value to add to our life. There are a few things we need to check when determining our spending habit. 

These are: We need to see the wrong in what we are doing. We need not hide behind ignorance of our actions. We should know that it is not going to help us if we do not find solution to it. If you are in debt already, we need to pay it all off and then develop another healthier way of dealing with your finances. 

We need to know how much we spend at any particular time. Be conscious of the amount of money that is being paid for any thing you are buying so as to help you determine if that amount is worth it or if that thing is worth having. You need to map out ways to evaluate what you are spending each month and why you are over spending if you are. Know what you need and calculate what you can get when you turn away from that thing that you want but do not really need. 

Re-evaluate your lifestyle now. Invent new ways of handling your finances. This is something that will give you a new meaning into why and how you are spending what you are not supposed to. Get a new lifestyle that is healthier for your pocket. Design some kind of specification on the spending decision you make. Be careful with how you dish out your credit card and what you use it to buy. It is super easy to over spend when you know you can get it on credit. 

We as women have problems with how we spend out money, now is the time to learn to put a spending plan together, this can help in our day to day purchases so that we can see the error of what we do as clear as possible and this will be the first step towards a better habit.

We can support you with creating a spending plan and other financial success habits so you too can become financially fabulous. 

Check out www.femvestorsglobal.com for more information

Relationships and Our Finances - Why New Couples Fight and Solutions to Solve

It is common for new couples to fight over money. In fact, research has proved that one of the most common sources of misunderstanding among couples stems from financial problems. There is no such thing as easy money. Individuals work hard to earn enough for their daily expenses, to pay out bills and to survive day to day living. Before tying the knot or moving in with your partner, it is important that couples understand some of the reasons why partners may come to fight over finance and more importantly why budgeting needs to become an essential part of the relationship. 

Spending too much. In every couple, one will always spend more than the other. Stereotypically it's the women. However, there are also men who love to splurge on cars, tools, sports and so on. The difference is, one wants to spend this much and the other doesn't. Now of course neither want to compromise their wants or needs. This can quickly cause an argument. So before settling down, couples should be ready to make major adjustments with their spending. Both need to realise that in marriage compromise is a must, especially when there are more important bills to pay like the mortgage, car, and possibly even baby preparations. 

Credit Card Bills. Credit card bills can sometimes seem like the end of the world in a relationship. Avoid them all together and use cash instead. Fights are generally a given when a credit card bill arrives. That whopping figure - the night when the husband took his friends out for rounds of drinks, the new kitchen appliances she bought, the new suit, a collector's toy, etc. They all add up and it can be very hard to work out who purchased what and when at the end of every month. New couples tend to think that just because they are married, the better half will tolerate the shopping splurges and shouted rounds of drinks at the bar. But this is not the case and more often than not, they end up fighting. So avoid the fight all together and pay in cash instead that way you will avoid the monthly credit card bill you both dread. 

The other option is to have your own credit cards and agree collectively how to align on spending and making payments, outside of a joint card for household bills and expenses.

Envy. Money and Envy tend to go hand in hand and when your married this situation can be even more intense. Some couples get jealous when they find out that their neighbour has just bought a new luxury car. They feel that they need to have one or else, their marriage won't be as good as the neighbours. So they order one out of impulse. The results are destructive. Shopping for luxury items on an impulse can result to financial turmoil. This ruins a couple's chance to enjoy a wonderful future. They end up paying for something that they do not really need. Throwing away money they could have used the to save up for their kids' education or a magnificent holiday getaway to rekindle the love. 

Conjugal debt. Some couples fail to discuss individual debts before settling down. These could be student loans, car loans, etc. When the issues arise, whether it be early or later in the relationship expect a major argument among couples. This stems solely from a lack of communication. So it is essential that couples, even before they are married, learn that open communication amongst each other is the sole key to a happy long lasting relationship. 

It is very important for couples to discuss their individual financial statuses before they get into living together/married. People work hard for their money, and with every couple one will always work harder than the other, the same way that one will always be a bigger spender than the other. But there's no such thing as easy money or an easy marriage/relationship. So to avoid heated discussions and arguments over finances, couples are advised to lay their cards on the table before tying the knot. Going into a joint spousal relationship unaware of circumstances, confused or scared to communicate is a recipe for disaster. 

Do You Have the Right to More Energy & More Money?

Thoreau said, "The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it." 

What if you came to the realisation that you are, indeed, exchanging your energy for your life? Would that change some of how you spend your time, i.e., your energy? I think it might. So, wouldn't it be wise to make sure that as often as possible, any energy that you're expending on an activity or expending on a person, you make into a positive exchange rather than a negative exchange? 

Let me ask you a question: 

Do you believe you have a right to more positive energy? 

If you don't believe you have a right to positive things, which includes positive energy, then I'm not sure you're going to find much value in this article. 

Let's flip for a moment to thinking about finances. Your sense of whether you have a right to positive energy is related to your sense that you have a right to ask for certain amounts of money when you are negotiating. The reason I'm bringing this up here is because when you value yourself (and the energy of your life), you will be better able to charge appropriately for your time, services, and products.

I recommend reading Suze Orman's book, entitled Women and Money, Owning the Power to Control Your Destiny. When I first got this book a couple of years ago, I read almost the whole thing in one evening. The title of chapter 4 is, "You Are Not on Sale." In this chapter she discusses how women in particular devalue themselves. She states,

If you under-value what you do, the world under-values who you are, and when you under-value who you are the world under-values what you do.  

This is a big message for all of us. There is extensive research available about how women continue to under-value what we have to offer much more so than men do. For example, a very interesting book was published a while back, titled Women Don’t Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation and Positive Strategies for Change (Princeton University Press, 2003), was so influential that Fortune Magazine named it as one of the 75 smartest business books of all time. The book also was a Finalist for the Independent Publisher Book Awards.

Two academic women examined women professors and how they start out with the same amount of education and the same amount of experience as men, yet over time the women are always paid less and always ask for less. Apparently, men keep asking for more and they get more. The authors also looked at what it ends up costing women over their lifetime. It is not costing you $10,000 over your lifetime; it is costing you closer to half a million dollars. So, not only do you need to know how to ask...but you have to recognise your VALUE. 

Now, the second question I'd like to ask you in this article is: 

Whose responsibility is it for you to have more positive energy? 

This is clearly tied to the valuing of who you are and what you do. Again, as women, we tend to think people will notice what a good job we do and they will, of course, reward us with money and promotions and all kinds of things. And I will bet if I took a little poll here among the readers of this article, we might all find out that's not exactly how it works. We must truly value what we do and then know how to ask for the appropriate compensation for that. 

You do have some control over your time, energy, and compensation and I believe it's your responsibility to exert that control. You have to know what you have that is of value and you have to let other people know that as well. 

In all ways, you want to explore the ways you can maximise your positive energy - and the return on that energy. When you do, you're maximising your life.

Article source: Meggin Mckintosh

Financial Success Habits and Our Old Beliefs

Are you struggling with your money goals and your finance goals? I think a lot of people are these days, especially with the current economic climate right? Why do we all struggle with these goals to achieve in life? Why do we grapple with issues around accomplishing a goal in terms of our finances? In my experience, this is all deep in our subconscious and goes back to our childhood and throughout our teen and adult life. 

In the past couple of years, I have been blessed to see some of the most successful business men and women in the world. I have sat for hours as they speak about how they struggled to overcome their own struggles with their money goals and finance goals. I have listened to speakers who slept on the streets, slept in train stations etc... to conquer their money goals and finally learn how to set life goals! I have seen the pain in their eyes and the emotional attachment that this period still has with them. 

Why do people go through periods of struggle with their money and finance goals? Well, when you think about it, as kids we are very much subjected to a lot of "myths" about money and how it is viewed by society. Have you ever heard some of these common myths before... 

• Money is the root of all evil 
• Getting rich is a matter of luck or fate 
• Having a lot of money will make me less spiritual or pure 
• Money will change me 
• Money won't make me happy 
• I'm too young to be rich
• I'm too old to start making money
• I don't deserve or not worthy of money 
• I'm already quite comfortable
• I don't need to push myself 

I bet these sayings are familiar to the majority of you? We struggle with our money goals and finance goals because we have been so conditioned by phrases like "I'm not made of money" or "Money doesn't grow on trees", that it is inherent in our subconscious. It is almost like a disease and we don't even realize it! I have been very lucky to attend various seminars on this subject that have really brought this to my conscious mind. When something is conscious, we can train the brain so that success in our money goals and finance goals becomes habitual. 

After attending seminars, reading books and being more aware of these myths and negative stories we have all heard about, I began to realise that this severely impacts our goals to achieve in life, in such a negative way. I then started to see things differently and made an observation that many people I have spoken to lately, have agreed with. What we watch on TV has a big impact on our money goals and finance goals! 

I grew up in the "Disney" era, where my beliefs on money stemmed from my childhood and romantic movies and books. I would live happily ever after, Prince Charming would always look after me. My childhood toys were Barbie having a fabulous life with Ken. Outside of Barbie dolls, I had toys such as a pram to push my kids in, a toy cooker, plastic tea set and a toy convertible car and caravan that Ken bought me. I had make-up, shoes and princess dress-up outfits, a plastic girl's head for practicing hairstyles.

Growing older, I continue to buy these "so called toys" into my adult life- clothes, shoes, handbags, expensive cars, designer make-up, frequent holidays and high self maintenance activities. I spiralled into a lot of debt.

Fast forward paying off the credit cards, loans and eventually getting myself out of debt, I started to then seriously focus on my financial habits and following others. Once you start to model and try to replicate successful people, you see things with new eyes. I often speak so highly of the seminars and the business speakers that I have been privileged to see live. After spending three full days at an event on "money goals" 3 years ago, someone once remarked that I was in a "cult". It made me think, perhaps I have been in a "cult" with my money goals and finance goals before I began to see the light that the successful gurus have shown me. 

So I guess its time to debunk some of the myths above and leave you with some new belief systems to mull over: 

1) Making money doesn't restrict freedom, it PROMOTES freedom 

2) To master money, I must MANAGE money 

3) Wealthy and successful people aren't smarter than me, they just have better money management Financial HABITS 

Some people think that the concept of changing your mindset is all "mumbo jumbo". 

I beg to differ. I think that if we begin to look at things with new eyes, that we can really start to focus on our money goals and finance goals. In fact, you can focus on new ways to achieve your goals in life! So what are your new money associations? 

Fill in the blank: Money is__________ 

Only 20% of people set goals. 

The other 80% think they have goals... but these are only wishes! 

Are you open to some different perspectives on how to set and achieve goals?

If so, check out Femvestorsglobal.com

We support you with goal setting, getting clarity on a vision for your life and turning your dreams into reality. We give you the GPS to your "Moneymoon Destination".

Women and Finance: Household CFOs

In more and more households, it is the women sorting the mail and email as it comes in, separating the bills and ensuring they get paid on time via their online bill pay system. Women also typically continue to make day-to-day purchasing decisions that have a lasting impact on a family's finances, such as where to make grocery and clothing purchases, and whether to use club cards or discount vouchers. In addition, many women have taken on increasingly complex financial tasks, such as eliminating credit card debt, investing for retirement, saving for their children's education, and engaging in family estate planning. 

The Household CFO (Chief Financial Officer): An Old Term that is making a comeback.

Yes, we are undertaking these tasks but no one is taking it a step further. When we have money saved, what do we do with it?. Many of us have grown up believing that the Banks are a solution. They are not but where else do you go?  Yes, some businesses that provide financial services are beginning to cater to even more women and to give us the respect we deserve. But can we trust them?

Women and Finance: Doing it Their Way 

As marketers, web designers, sales people, financial advisors and other business professionals learn to target women more effectively, they are consistently realising that women think differently about finance than men do. 

Here are some strategies that these professionals should keep in mind as they target women in finance.  

1. We are voracious information gatherers. And we like to get our information in community settings. This is where Femvestorsglobal support you as we will certainly carry this appetite for information-gathering into your finance habits. 

2. Many, but not all women, lack confidence in their financial skills. This lack of confidence is somewhat ironic, because many of us are actually quite competent and so our lack of skill is often perceived, rather than real. 

Unfortunately, the Finance Industry has been a boy's club for centuries and we have been kept in the dark around how things operate. Femvestorsglobal can bridge this confidence gap by speaking in plain English, rather than attempting to impress you with financial jargon that the Professionals use to their advantage. 

3. We tend to thrive in networks. Femvestorsglobal created a Community to support you and hold your hand every step of the way.  Regardless of your time zone, time commitment or finances, we cater for YOU. We listened to what you needed and created a global solution to this issue. 

4. Our values are Honesty, Integrity and Trust. Yes, it takes time to build trust, once you are in our network, you will see the difference we will make to your life and your loved ones. We are true to who we are. 

There are certainly companies and whole industries that have not gotten the memo. We certainly listened to You and created our Community for You.

Check us out at www.femvestorsglobal.com to see how we can support you!