Kids, Parents & Money

Members of what is being called the "sandwich generation" are coping with balancing their own needs with the needs and expectations of family. These individuals are often "sandwiched" between the needs of their parents, who may require assistance with daily living tasks or medical care, and the needs of their children, who may require financial or emotional support. 

Within the next decade, the population over age 65 will continue to grow. Increasing life expectancies also means that more people are likely to have chronic health problems and family involvement in their care. 

This sandwich situation calls for open inter-family conversations to help ensure that money is managed thoughtfully and effectively, as well as cooperatively. It also means staying aware of your own financial plan when it comes to the increasing costs of medical care for your parents and education for your children.

Generous Boomers - Severely impacts our Retirement

Exactly how to teach children about money is a dilemma for many parents.  In fact, some baby boomers are concerned about how the support they give their grown children may impact their own golden years. Although they have these concerns, boomers think helping their adult children is slowing down their retirement savings.  One reason boomers don't see the impact on their retirement savings may be that they are tapping into "day-to-day" spending money and not dipping into retirement accounts to fund their children's needs. But, could some of that money be used to save toward retirement savings?

 

Lets Talk Money

Discussing finances can be complicated. Each generation thinks about money and the need to talk about it with other family members in ways that have been shaped by their upbringing and societal norms. An 86-year-old, for example, probably has a much different view of debt than do their children or their grandchildren. He may question why his 28-year-old grandson uses a credit card to buy new clothes even if he's already deeply in debt. Although talking about money may be a sensitive subject, good things happen when families discuss money. It's important to approach the conversation in an open, non-judgmental way. While finances are a taboo subject for many reasons, "harmony can be realised through understanding and communication," In some cases, families may find it helpful to include a neutral third party, to act as a facilitator.

 

Key points about families and finances:

1. Members of the sandwich generation cope with balancing their own needs with the needs of their parents and children.
2. Generosity to family is only natural but you need to plan for it.
3. Have conversations about money with family, because open dialogue about money benefits everyone
4. It may be helpful to include a neutral third party to act as a facilitator

 

Take Sarah, for example, a 46-year-old divorcee who supports her two adult sons. Sarah's financial advisor told her, "Let's deal with this now, or you're going to be making some really tough choices in five or 10 years," 

"You need to tell your children you can't be their sole source of financial support." The best way to avoid these complicated situations is to do what may seem uncomfortable: Talk honestly about money. No matter how you do it, what really matters is that you start the conversation and keep it going. "The money thing, from my perspective, is as much, if not more, about communication as it is about the money itself," 

Boomerang Children

While many people in this age group 18-30 may still be in school and have not yet moved out, others have returned home believing they can't afford to live independently because of high housing costs, credit card debts and student loans.

Tips to help you transition your adult child into financial independence:

1. Have an agreement that spells out the living arrangements and household responsibilities.
2. Be clear about what financial responsibilities children will have when they move back home (e.g., paying rent or a portion of utility expenses).
3. Require that children make specific progress toward paying down debt and adding to their savings.
4. Agree on a plan for the future.

Making a Better Sandwich

Femvestorsglobal can help you determine what financial needs you will have based on your own goals and unique family situation. For instance, you could consider an education fund, or purchasing long-term care insurance for your parents. You may also need to think about other health-care expenses and estate-planning issues with your parents. We help guide you and your family through these issues and decisions while helping you keep your own retirement planning on the right track.

Money and Family Dynamics

Money is an incredibly sensitive topic in any family and attributes to one of the main reasons why couples divorce or separate. If you have been watching the TV show "Succession", you will know exactly what I am referring to.

For most people, their "success" or "failure" in life is gauged by how much money they make. Now many people, myself included, feel that there's more to success than just money, however, we can't escape the fact that many others don't feel the same.

Money, in a family dynamic, can cause more strife than any other single topic. Money does not cause family dysfunction, it merely amplifies any underlying dysfunction that was always lurking beneath the surface. We're currently and continue to experience the largest transfer of wealth ever and the implications are huge.

The easiest way to avoid future conflicts over money is to do careful planning before it ever becomes an issue. When starting the estate planning process, it's important that all interested parties be aware of what's going on so that there are no nasty surprises when the transfer of assets actually happens. By undertaking due diligence ahead of time, any issues can be addressed and hopefully, minimised with much less pain. I can't tell you the number of times I've heard potential heirs complain that their parent/grandparents are frittering away "their inheritance." 

If you are a business owner with family members involved, if you've accumulated enough wealth to have a family charitable foundation or trust, or if you simply want to give it all away when you die, it's critically important that you let your heirs know what you intend to do with your estate upon your passing. There's nothing worse than having a child that thinks they're going to inherit a fortune, only to find out that you intend to give it all away to your favorite charities. Many baby boomers are counting on their inheritance to finance their own retirement so imagine their surprise and anger when they find out their own retirement plans have been derailed. At a minimum, not involving your heirs in this discussion could lead to incredible animosity, years of therapy and, most likely, legal wrangling in an attempt to undo your wishes. That's why, long before it becomes an issue, you need to ask yourself the following questions: 

While I'm alive and in my twilight years, who's responsibility is it to take care of me when I can no longer take care of myself? 

When I do die, what do I want done with my estate? 

Are my children capable of carrying on the visions and goals of my business? 

Will my heirs use the money in our charitable foundation the way I intended, or will they change its mission to something completely different? 

If you plan to give it to your children or grandchildren, and they inherit a large sum of money, will they be able to handle it responsibly or will they "blow all of it"?

One of the trends we're seeing is inheritance based on reaching certain personal milestones. For example, instead of giving your beneficiary a lump sum inheritance when they turn 21, the trust will dictate that a certain amount will be distributed upon reaching certain milestones i.e. graduation from college, marriage, starting a new business, etc. 

The wealth transfer process, by its nature involves many parties including family, charities, attorneys, accountants, wealth managers and a host of others. By having open, honest discussions with your family and advisors regarding the transfer of your own wealth, you can have your estate go where you want it and in the amounts you want and, hopefully, all those involved will be on board so that the process is as painless as possible.

Kids, Parents and Money

The "sandwich generation" are coping with balancing their own needs with the needs and expectations of family. Current research shows that 44% of Americans between the ages of 45 and 55 have living parents or in-laws, as well as children under age 21. Many of these individuals are direct caregivers - with 64% of caregivers also employed full-time or part-time. 

Within the next decade, the population over age 65 will continue to grow, according to U.S. Census reports. Increasing life expectancies also means that more people are likely to have chronic health problems and family involvement in their care. Today, an estimated 7 to 10 million adult children are providing care and assistance for their parents long-distance. And, approximately 92% of boomers financially support an adult child in one or more ways. This sandwich situation calls for open inter-family conversations to help ensure that money is managed thoughtfully and effectively, as well as cooperatively. It also means staying aware of your own financial plan when it comes to the increasing costs of medical care for your parents and college for your children. 

Generous Boomers - Tenuous Retirement 

Exactly how to teach children about money is a dilemma for many parents, according to the Ameriprise Financial New Retirement MindscapeSM study: 52% of those surveyed said it was the advice they needed most. In fact, some baby boomers are concerned about how the support they give their grown children may impact their own golden years, according to Nathan Dungan, president and founder of Share Save Spend, an organization that helps people of all ages develop and maintain healthy financial habits. Although they have these concerns, only 29% of boomers think helping their adult children is slowing down their retirement savings - a key finding of the Ameriprise Financial Money Across GenerationsSM study. One reason they don't see the impact on their retirement savings may be that they are tapping into "day-to-day" spending money and not dipping into retirement accounts to fund their children's needs. But, could some of that money be used to save toward retirement savings? 

Money Talks 

Discussing finances can be complicated because each generation thinks about money and the need to talk about it with other family members in ways that have been shaped by their upbringing and societal norms. An 86-year-old patriarch, for example, probably has a much different view of debt than do boomers or their children. He may question why his 28-year-old grandson uses a credit card to buy new clothes even if he's already deeply in debt. Although talking about money may be a sensitive subject, good things happen when families discuss money. It's important to approach the conversation in an open, non judgmental way. While finances are a taboo subject for many reasons, "harmony can be realised through understanding and communication," Dungan says. In some cases, families may find it helpful to include a neutral third party, such as a financial advisor, to act as a facilitator. 

Key points about families and finances: 

1. Members of the sandwich generation cope with balancing their own needs with the needs of their parents and children. 

2. Generosity to family is only natural but you need to plan for it. 

3. Have conversations about money with family, because open dialogue about money benefits everyone. 

4. It may be helpful to include a neutral third party, to act as a facilitator. 

Take Ruth, for example, a 59-year-old widow who supports her two adult sons. Ruth's financial advisor told her, "Let's deal with this now, or you're going to be making some really tough choices in five or 10 years," Dungan recalls. "You need to tell your children you can't be their sole source of financial support. The best way to avoid these complicated situations is to do what  may seem uncomfortable: Talk honestly about money. According to Dungan, no matter how you do it, what really matters is that you start the conversation and keep it going. "The money thing, from my perspective, is as much, if not more, about communication as it is about money," he says. 

Boomerang Children 

According to Pew Research study in 2021 47% of 18-29 are still living with their parents whilst  usafacts.org states that 16.9% of young adults aged 25-34 live with at least one parent. While many people in this age group may still be in education and have not yet moved out, others have returned home believing they can't afford to live independently because of high housing costs and student debts. 

Tips to help you transition your grown up children into financial independence: 

1. Have an agreement that spells out the living arrangements and household responsibilities. 

2. Be clear about what financial responsibilities children will have when they move back home (e.g., paying rent or a portion of utility expenses). 

3. Require that children make specific progress toward paying down debt and adding to their savings. 

4. Agree on a departure date. 

Making a Better Sandwich 

Your financial advisor can help you determine what financial needs you will have based on your own goals and unique family situation. For instance, you could consider investing in a 529 plan for your children's or grandchildren's college expenses, or purchasing long-term care insurance for your parents. 

You may also need to think about other health-care expenses and estate planning issues with your parents. 

Your advisor can help guide you and your family through these issues and decisions while helping you keep your own retirement planning on the right track. 

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