Being a Financially Independent Woman and In a Relationship

You take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually, but you may never have thought of it that you had to take care of yourself financially. Being in a committed relationship (married or co-habiting) doesn't mean you have to be totally dependent on your spouse to provide for you. Just because you are in this relationship shouldn't mean that you lose yourself in your partner and their life. You still are a human being, an individual and you have your own two feet to stand on (figuratively speaking) as well as your own hands and backbone to do what needs to be done. Your husband or partner isn't there for you to ride on. 

Here is an example of what I am talking about. When you watch those guys on the unicycle in the circus, they can do some pretty amazing things right, especially up on a high wire. But when you add two people to that single wheel, things get pretty intense and while you watch them on that unicycle you find you hold your breath a lot. What about when you add three people to that one wheeled vehicle? Really gets scary right? 

I know I have seen those circus people get up to 5 people on one tiny little wheel. Not for me thanks. I prefer 4 wheels and a running board. You have a good, sturdy car with 4 wheels on the ground; it's solid and safe for more than just one person to be in, right? Well, why would it be any different for a marriage/relationship and finances? It doesn't matter where you live in the world, why would you put all your trust on a one wheeled vehicle, namely your husband's financial wheel? What if something happened to them? What if something happened to the money they brought in? Look at the way this economy is going? Wonder why it's not as good as people keep wishing it to be? That is a story for another time; but just understand that you don't have to be stuck on that unicycle with your partner or husband. Grab a wheel, stretch out of your comfort zone and get financially independent. It will not only help you in the long run, but think of the benefits of earning an income for yourself, having investments and working as a 'team' WITH your partner rather than expecting them to have it all while you sit in the dark.

When you are financially independent it isn't saying you are expecting the worst of the marriage/relationship, you are just making sure that it is on equal terms so that you can work towards having an awesome relationship. You would be surprised at how many partners actually love knowing that their spouse's don't 'need' them financially and feel more secure knowing that if anything was to happen to them that their partners were very well taken care of and strong enough to get through anything. I have also been told that when they see  their partners financially independent they (the spouse) feel like a huge weight lifted off their shoulders and they don't have this 'thing' hanging over their heads. They WANT to create a cash flow rather than HAVE to create one. 

There are poems, stories, sayings about how strong women are and yet soft on the inside. Why not use that to our benefit financially? We are great at multi-tasking and taking care of others, so why not take care of ourselves too? We would most certainly sleep better knowing the bills were paid, savings account was in the black, kids were well taken care of, what our investments were doing, etc because we are involved in the creation of these things. 

The next time you see an opportunity to help you get financially independent don't be afraid to take the chance...grab that opportunity, it could be the best thing you ever did for yourself and your family. Until next time, have a  prosperous week.